My father died when I was one. So my mom did her best to teach me to be independent from an early age. It made it easier for her to raise all four of us by yourself.
I grew up thinking everything was the product of my own effort. If I tried hard, I could get whatever I wanted.
So I earned my black belt at age 18, put myself through college, earned my engineering degree, worked in Tokyo for Sony, started a few businesses in Hawaii, learned how to fly, etc…all by myself.
It wasn’t until I was much older that I realized that I was totally wrong.
I hadn’t done anything by myself. Instead, I stood on the shoulders of all those people around me.
Independence is important. Inter-dependence is even more powerful.
They say if you want to go far, go alone. But if you want to go far, go together.
This week’s word is ‘together.’
On one level, it’s about engaging your children. Spending quality time with them. Do stuff together. Washing the clothes together, playing outside together, gardening together…
But ‘together’ is also about inclusion. About finding synergies. Incorporating the stragglers. And realizing all of us are part of something bigger.
This holiday season, take some well-deserved time out. Take time out for yourself and for the people around you. Instead of chasing the next deal or the next action item, just drop it all and say, “I am all yours…What do you want to do?”
When life knocks you down, stand back up. Keep trying.
Author Bio :
Sensei James has 35 years experience in the martial arts and has served as an AAU (American Athletics Union) certified martial arts coach and tournament judge. James has a 5th degree black belt in Hapkido and a 1st degree black belt in Taekwondo. James owns SuperGeeks, Smart Karate and AnyoneCanFight.com.